Twin Flames – To Date, Or Not To Date :: Soulsong ⚜️

February 11, 2019

This information will speak primarily to the Divine Feminine, or for the twin who is embodying the feminine aspect of their Union. I say this because it is the Feminine aspect that has the most difficulty with the idea of dating and entering into relationships with those other than their Beloved.

I was fortunate in this area of growth and healing  because I did not know my divine other and I were twin flames, or anything about twin flames – until many years (6) after we went into separation. I only knew that he was very special, and stood out – utterly and completely – from everyone else in my life and I experienced things with him when we met that were mystical, and life-changing. When I was finally ready to date again, I did not have to wade through knowing who we were to one another as twin souls, and the complex feelings DF’s experience that stem from our programming surrounding our sexuality – guilt, shame, and fear that you will damage your union if you mingle with others.

As twin flames we are here to break all that false programming down. We are here to re-code relationships to unconditional love.

Prior to coming in, at soul level while we are in the planning phase of our life stream, not only does this planning include agreements we make with our twin, we also line up other partners that will assist us with our twin flame journey. We can arrange for them to appear in our lives before we meet our twin, to help us prepare for the initial meeting of our twin – and then also after, when twins move into the separation phase, to help us do the healing work that prepares us for re-union with our Beloved, and to further align us with our divine path.

Both masculine & feminine create agreements with other souls that help us heal and clear the lower energy we’ve accumulated. These agreements can be big, or small, or somewhere in between. They will be whatever we need them to be in order to heal what needs to be healed.

We arrange these partnerships because twin flames can not heal with one another, with rare exception. The energy is too potent, and becomes too volatile, for unhealed, unbalanced, twin flames. We must separate, and have other partners help us with this deep soul work.

One of these agreements came in to my life the third year after my twin left. I was just beginning to breathe again after having gone through an intense 2 year dark night of the soul.

He turned out to be a very deep connection that spanned the course of 10 years, though I did not feel actual love for him until about the 3rd year I knew him. For quite a while, I was not ready for anything more than what we had. He was a really good guy and he helped me so much. We barely saw one another because of the way our lives were structured – just the way we – our souls – had designed it to be. Ultimately, we were not meant for anything Long term. It ended exactly at the right time, and way.

He helped me work through my abandonment issues. He lived 4000 miles away and so each time we parted I had to work through deep feelings of eternal loss, similar to what I felt when my twin left my life. He helped me recover from the sense of catastrophic loss, and failure in my self at not being able to hold the biggest love I’ve ever experienced that resulted in the loss of my Will to live during those dark night of the soul years after my twin left my life. It was my version of Truth and Trust that I had to learn.. trust in my self, and in the Greater Plan of my life.

These karmic agreements are not one sided. We each benefit because we also help them with things they need to learn and heal. Sometimes these issues are very similar to our own – humans are wounded in a lot of the same ways – so it is likely that we will mirror one another as twin flames do. But the connection with them is more manageable because there is not the intense energy that twin flames have as same soul energy.

While this karmic soulmate was helping me heal my heart, I helped him open his. I showed him what healthy intimacy is – how valuable it is to the human spirit and heart, and how we need deep connections with one another to thrive in life. We provided safe masculine and feminine energy for one another as we healed. In doing so we both learned trust in our selves through trusting one another.

Karmic partners help us do the heavy lifting of our healing process – they are a gift to us, and we are a gift to them. They help prepare twin flames for re-union with one another, and we prepare them for their future partners, and other contracts they have down the road of their life. All is orchestrated at the higher levels.

Many times these agreements are created with soulmates with whom we need to clear, or balance, karma with – hence the term ‘karmic partners’ that is commonly used for these connections. For the majority of us this will be our last lifetime to balance the scales with other souls we are indebted to, or they us, before the dimensional shift takes us to higher 5D density. All Karma must be balanced as part of our readiness for Ascension to the higher realms. More info on that process here.

These partners can also embody the energy traits of the parent/person who was the source of our wounding. They will remind us of that parent by how we feel with them. They will behave in similar ways that trigger our emotions in the same ways. The lesson is not to conform, but to find our voice and our empowerment so that we can move beyond these patterns and cycles of giving our power away to those who abuse us, who do not honor and respect us, who do not love us unconditionally.  Are we claiming our power and choosing to be true to our selves? Or are we continuing dis-empowered patterns of serving the selfish, pushy, controlling, guilt ridden and oppressive (narcissistic) demands of others? As children we did not have options and the ability to choose. As adults we learn that we do. Unlearning people pleasing, and honoring self, is a massive lesson toward Self Love, and core to our healing by closing out these cycles of relationships that operate in oppressive energy – because we are Worthy of so much more.

On rare occasion twin flames will contract with other twin flames to assist one another with our healing and clearing process.

How ever these relationships show up in our lives they are a temporary part of our journey. As soon as the agreements with them have been met, the lessons learned, the relationships will begin to dissolve, very naturally. The pull to be with the karmic partner will lessen, and the pull to be with the divine counterpart will strengthen and become a priority. As we heal, our true self, our true light, emerges and is revealed to us. The karmic partner will not be able to reflect this light back to us. Only with our divine counterpart, can we reflect this light With one another. The heart of twin flames know Innately when to hold, when to release, and when to seek.

I get asked often if I feel all twin flames make it full circle to one another. Identifying if you are for certain dealing with a True Twin Flame connection is important. It took me quite a while, years, to finally and with certainty come to the conclusion – without any doubt – that I was a twin flame who had encountered her divine counterpart as same soul energy by how life changing it was. It shredded me. The level of energy and love I experienced with this person, and this being reflected back to me changed the arc of my life. Being a true twin flame and encountering your divine other is a pivotal experience in your life and sets you forward on a Divine Path. Your old life, old self, will fall away.

For the twin who embodies the feminine principle, the first part of the journey after they separate will be inward – the healing and clearing phase in order to bring about self love, and balance of the masculine and feminine energies within. Once she she is clear and able maintain a state of Balance (zero point), and higher Awareness, she is able to energetically (through their energetic connection) support her masculine counterpart to go through his inner healing process. Her healed vibration is healing to his vibration.

This process brings about the harmonization at the energetic level. Physical union can then be brought about and the higher selves will guide and support our paths back to one another where we are then ready to carry on with our mission of planetary service in Union in our new state of Healed/Unconditional Love.

This healing, this clearing process – for both – is the first phase of the twin flame journey. It is enormous and important work. Not only are we clearing low vibrational energy (narcissism) for our selves, we are also clearing our bloodlines energetically. With each twin flame couple doing this work on a planetary scale, is how we lift the frequency of the planet with our collective healing work. It is how we build and amplify the Light grids on Earth.

True Twin Flames are destined to one another for the purpose of re-coding humanity to unconditional love – Spiritual Love. Our combined Light is our Gift to one another, and the World. This entire journey for twin flames is for the evolution of humanity. We are the pilot wave of change.

twin candle flames

Spirit will highlight the important people for your path in your life. Certain people can be brought forth to show you where you are with you – the growth you have achieved – or what is yet to be learned or anchored as Truth. Are you demonstrating Self Love, or not, with your choices and discernment.

The whole process is literally a Heart Awakening. We do not control it, plan it, or figure it out at our human level. It is all planned and guided at our higher soul level. We only need surrender to the process that Spirit is in control of. So, don’t overthink this. It’s a very natural process.

The Universal Forces – our higher selves, our spirit teams – do the work to bring in everyone and everything that we need, with perfect timing that Ultimately aligns twin flames, and works Its magic to support us once we get there – because it’s in alignment with our soul’s divine path.

We only need surrender to divine timing, follow our guidance, trust our selves – and Be love.

Shared with love ~ Soulsong44 ⚜️

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